In this episode we welcome Ryan Kemp-Pappan, also known as Ryan The Therapist. Ryan shares about his diverse cultural upbringing being raised within his indigenous family while being white-presenting. Ryan reflects on the experiences of his indigenous family as well as his parent’s marriage and subsequent divorce. Ryan candidly shares about the domestic abuse he suffered that included parental alienation from his mother. We learn about Ryan’s time as a child actor in Hollywood where he shares a memorable moment with actor Michael Landon. We discuss the efforts many GenX parents have made to break the cycle of generational trauma, and how raising healthy and well-adjusted children can be triggering to our own trauma at times. Ryan shares his 11 year journey to get his college degree, and the clever ways he dealt with having dyslexia. We discuss the impact purity culture can have on intimacy and relationships, and how much effort it takes to choose a healing journey vs staying on the path of trauma. We learn about Ryan’s time in the church where he served as an Outreach Missions Pastor in the gay community, and his journey into therapy and becoming a therapist that followed. Ryan shares about the absolute joy that is his marriage and being a father and what a healing experience both have been. Ryan’s story is one of survival and triumph in the face of immense adversity. He is truly an inspiration and uses his experience and expertise to help men in particular along their healing journey. We were honored to be a witness to Ryan’s amazing life, and we look forward to having him as a return guest to discuss more on what he focuses on when helping his male patients.
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Website: https://ryanthetherapist.com/
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Chapters:
00:00 Intro
01:16 Family Background
06:10 The Impact of Residential Schools on Indigenous Lives
12:10 Storytelling and Family Dynamics
16:55 Family's Early Beginnings In Los Angeles
23:10 True Crime Story of Maternal Grandfather
30:30 Upheaval in Parent's Marriage
36:12 Childhood Memories and Early Experiences
44:22 Navigating Divorce and Family Changes
50:19 Loss and Resilience in Childhood
55:15 Understanding Male Toxicity and Its Impact
01:00:32 Custody Battles and Family Dynamics
01:06:23 Cultural Identity and Misrepresentation
01:12:32 Understanding Family Trauma
01:18:40 The Normalization of Violence
01:25:13 Finding Healing and Hope
01:33:49 30th Birthday in Kenya
01:38:14 Navigating Adolescence
01:46:02 Step-Mom Entering Life
01:49:07 Playing Sports in High School
01:53:48 Father's Heart Attack
02:00:19 The Concept of Going to College
02:06:53 Processing Confrontation
02:17:45 Using Alcohol As a Coping Mechanism
02:22:57 Be The Healthy Adult That Your Inner Child Needed
02:29:20 Returning to Los Angeles from Upstate New York
02:33:38 Growing Up In Purity Culture
02:42:33 Becoming Sober
02:46:11 Returning to College - California State University, Northridge
02:53:28 Missionary Work in Kenya
02:58:09 Attending Seminary in Texas and Meeting Wife
03:05:28 Toxic Masculinity
03:11:49 Becoming an Outreach Missions Pastor to the Gay Community
03:19:58 Therapy Journey and Becoming a Therapist
03:34:07 Diabetes Diagnosis
03:34:39 Becoming a Dad
03:39:28 Music
03:42:20 5 Year Vision
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