GenX Adulting Podcast - Episode 54 - GenX Speaks Series: Denise Conde - The Valor of Generation X
Episode Summary
In Episode 54 of the GenX Speaks Series, Denise Conde discusses her experiences growing up as a member of Generation X, detailing her challenging childhood marked by family dysfunction and abuse. She reflects on her journey to adulthood, her career as a teacher, and the importance of breaking generational trauma while raising her own children.
Key Takeaways
- Denise Conde was born in Buffalo, New York, in 1972 and identifies strongly with Generation X.
- She experienced a tumultuous childhood characterized by parental abuse and mental health issues.
- Denise's experiences inspired her to write about her life and the valor of her generation.
- She emphasizes the importance of recognizing and breaking the cycle of trauma for future generations.
- Denise advocates for the use of sign language in teaching nonverbal autistic children to enhance communication.
- Her journey through education has been shaped by her personal experiences and her desire to provide a better life for her children.
- Denise believes that the increase in autism diagnoses is linked to various factors, including vaccinations.
Frequently Asked Questions
What motivated Denise Conde to write her book?
Denise was inspired to write about her life experiences and the valor of Generation X, aiming to break the cycle of trauma for future generations.
How did Denise's childhood affect her parenting style?
Denise's difficult childhood motivated her to create a loving and supportive environment for her children, contrasting her own upbringing.
What is Denise's perspective on the rise of autism diagnoses?
Denise believes that the increase in autism diagnoses is linked to various factors, including vaccinations, and emphasizes the need for better support and communication strategies for affected children.
What is Denise's professional background?
Denise is a special education teacher with experience in working with children with autism and has a passion for advocating for their needs.
How does Denise view the importance of sign language in education?
Denise advocates for teaching sign language to nonverbal autistic children as a means to enhance communication and understanding.
Part of these Topics: Divorce & Co-Parenting, Trauma & Breaking Cycles, Authors & Storytellers
Featured guests: Denise Conde
Description
In this episode we welcome Denise Conde, author of “The Valor of Generation X: How the Courageous Are Finding a New Path to Growth and Love”. Denise graciously and candidly shares about her upbringing, where she suffered physical, mental, emotional and narcissistic abuse from both of her parents. Denise shares about learning sign language in the darkness of the bedroom she shared with her sister who is deaf, as they communicated in silence about the fighting going on upstairs in their home. After high school, Denise left home for college, and hence began her eight year journey of running from her parents all while working to get her bachelor's degree. Marriage and motherhood followed, as did a fulfilling career as a special education teacher. Divorce brought new changes, including finding love and marrying again. After her father’s death ratcheted up her mother’s narcissistic abuse, Denise eventually made the decision to go no contact as she embarked on an incredible healing journey. From that journey “The Valor of Generation X” was born, as well as a set of courses customized to coincide with the book. The tools of healing Denise shares are invaluable, and she offers great insight as we discuss each one. We learn about the importance of tailored meditation and how the nervous system is connected to our subconscious, which significantly contributes to how we are hard wired. She offers concrete information to help someone in search of taking the first steps of their own healing journey, while never forgetting the importance of explaining the why. We truly admire Denise for her strength, but also for her prioritization of peace and calm. We were honored she was so open in sharing what was assuredly some of the most painful moments of her life. We know this episode will resonate and be very helpful to many.
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Chapters
Chapters:
00:00:15 Intro
00:00:43 Family Background
00:08:28 GenX Latch Key Kid Experience
00:12:36 Growing Up With Abuse
00:18:09 Siblings Getting Different Versions of Their Parents
00:20:24 GenX and Abandonment Issues
00:25:01 Trying to Escape an Abusive Home
00:29:00 Understanding the Cycle of Abuse
00:39:15 Going No Contact
01:02:23 The Journey of Realizing That Abuse Had Been Normalized
01:08:43 The Path to Self-Discovery and Healing
01:18:21 Changing Views On Mental Health
01:20:05 The Ego Death When You Become a Parent
01:23:59 The 8 Year Journey to Get a Bachelor Degree
01:36:10 Meeting First Husband
01:40:27 Motherhood: A Catalyst for Change
01:40:48 Becoming a Special Education Teacher
01:43:20 Non-Verbal Autism and Sign Language
01:46:22 The Rise of Autism: Observations and Opinions
01:52:16 Communication Barriers: The Need for Sign Language
01:57:33 Getting Divorced
02:02:12 Finding Love Again: A New Beginning
02:07:25 Understanding the Impact of Trauma on the Brain
02:12:04 Resurrect the Nervous System: A Course for Healing
02:15:24 The Importance of Tailored Medication Practices
02:18:29 Becoming a Sound Bath Healer
02:20:08 Somatic Healing
02:21:13 The Dark Side of Antidepressant and Anti-Anxiety Medication
02:25:32 Music and Frequency
02:27:24 Finding Closure After the Death of a Parent
02:35:41 Creating Courses for Healing and Growth
02:37:35 The Valor of Generation X
02:41:25 Subconscious Patterns and Learned Behaviors
02:49:38 Writing the Valor of Generation X
02:55:00 Writing a Letter From God to You
02:58:50 Going No Contact
03:07:50 Forgiveness as a Daily Practice
03:09:48 Spirituality and Religion
03:17:24 The Dark Night of the Soul
03:21:47 Parent Alienation
03:25:57 GenX Women in Menopause and GenX Men Who Are Avoidant
03:30:05 Raising GenZ and Younger Millennials
03:33:28 The Golden Child
03:42:00 5 Year Vision
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